Only a handful of people know that I am still breastfeeding Peachfuzz, and have plans to tandem feed her and Tiny. This is not a decision I am ashamed of by any means, simply something that, until now, I haven't tried to either hide or promote. But I feel like it's time to "come out of the closet" so to speak.
Breastfeeding a toddler is not strange or abnormal. In fact, it is the normal practice in much of the world. It seems to be only in the Western world that we think there is something wrong with breastfeeding past a child's first birthday. An article at babycenter says that "extended breastfeeding is not only normal, but preferred."
"It's not so unusual to be breastfeeding at 2 or 3 years old. Worldwide, the average age of weaning is somewhere around 3 to 4 years. Your child will stop breastfeeding when she's ready. Described as "child-led" weaning, this is the most effective and gentle way to wean. As long as you're both are enjoying breastfeeding, then by all means continue what you're doing."
For the full article, go here.
When I found out I was pregnant with Tiny, I fielded a lot of questions about when I was going to wean Peachfuzz, or if I had started weaning her yet. I would give vague answers and try to avoid talking about it with people. I got lots of comments that I should stop "before she can ask for it" (though I still maintain she's been asking for it since the day she was born, just not verbally). People have not tried to set limits for me, but have made comments in front of me about their opinions on people who breastfeed their children well into toddlerhood. Well, let's get this out there then.
The fact of the matter is, Peachfuzz and I are both quite happy to continue our breastfeeding relationship. I have always intended for her to wean when she is ready (child-led, as mentioned above). If this means I am still breastfeeding a three-year old, then so be it. It's normal, and I wish more people would consider extended breastfeeding. And if there's anyone out there who's thought about it, but is unsure or feels a lack of support, know that there are many women around the world who breastfeed their toddlers. I am proud to be one of them.
4 comments:
You totally rock! It's too bad you even needed to write this, though...with all that we now know about the benefits of nursing past infancy, it should just be the norm, not the exception! Best of luck as you enter the world of tandem nursing!
Katie (KatieBug on GCM)
Way to go, Mama! It's hard standing up for breastfeeding, let alone a nursing toddler. My family already wants me to quit and my son is only 9 months old! The benefits Breast milk and nursing don't suddenly stop when a baby turns 1.
I agree with Katie, You totally rock!
Shay (Linnis from GCM)
Wonderful post and well said. :) My first one weaned at three and my second on his fourth birthday. Both were abnormally healthy (heh-heh, abnormally, you know what I mean).
Neither ever had an ear infection or any of the other things that so frequently plague little ones.
I have never regretted that decision for one minute! More power to you mama! :)
Melissa~ (aka OneHappyMama at GCM)
Good for you, and both of your children!
From another mom of a nursing toddler :)
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